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Special Edition August 2018

8/21/2018

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Opinion: What Asia Argento Did Right
Special Edition August 2018

During my lifetime I have been victimized. Each time I have determinedly sought justice. And not once did the accused perpetrator immediately act to restore and protect my dignity, health, or other significant losses. However, Ms. Argento went far beyond offering the standard apology, which—to most who have reported claims like those made against Asia—are just meaningless words. That apology just reminds you that you are nothing: there are no words strong enough to restore what is lost by this intimate type of violation. Something much more concrete must be offered in such cases to jumpstart the recovery process. And Asia extended to a male who accused her just that—something to jumpstart the recovery process and to remind him that he is human. And now I’d like to remind you that Asia Argento is human.

Victim-advocates are likely burning my image over open bonfires by now. And I won’t try to dissuade anyone, if burning my image would make you feel better. However, at least read the rest of my opinion before you burn it too. Had Asia tried to silence her accuser, insisted on non-disclosure language, or paid significantly less restitution, I would not be of this opinion.

I say that Asia is human (and I’ll stand by my opinion) because through her acts towards someone who feels wronged by her, she demonstrated a genuine and contrite heart. Asia didn’t send threatening and demeaning communications, or even attempt to obscure the allegations—she put the other human’s wellbeing above her comfort, and by such acts her core values and personal constitution was laid bare for us all to vilify, crucify, or to extend a second chance. Yes, we can be critical of Asia and vilify her in our collective sanctimonious-superior consciousness, because many of our wrong acts will never become part of the public debate. So, we can comfortably avoid having the public decide if we privately act in a redeemable manner.
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During my lifetime, I’ve been victimized, and I have even suffered intimate violations. I have a reputation for showing zero mercy to perpetrators and wrongdoers accused of intimate violations, such as sexual assault. However, before today, I have never encountered or heard of a single person accused of an intimate violation that demonstrated true redeemable qualities such that the dignity and wellbeing of the other person was placed before the accused person.

I would gladly release New York Law School et al. and Magistrate Judge Cott from confidentiality so that the public can see how a black female and U.S. citizen is viewed in chambers; I want nothing more than to give you the facts and let you decide which side would you want as a neighbor, peer, lawyer, judge, co-worker, etc. (Things can get pretty ugly under confidential legal processes and non-disclosure agreements. Public disclosure means accountability.)

It’s too late and it isn’t true human decency when your press team organizes the spin that we are told to believe is a deep and personal self-correction. Such carefully organized plots we have seen time and time again. And if you’ve decidedly acted with physical force, violent instrument, or against a being of significantly-less comparable size or capacity to reason, such as a child, you are beyond the reprieve that natural society can bestow.

‘What Asia did right’ was to show mercy, and the quality of mercy saves not only the person acted on but the actor also. We must never dilute the harm that is implicit in every sexual assault, still reasonable minds must for the societal good distinguish accused individuals who are of a redemptive nature. So, while no sexual assault complaint can be overlooked or diminished, those among us possessing the ability to reason, must unequivocally agree that there are degrees of conduct within each violation that should determine if an accused can be rehabilitated or should be permanently branded.

Asia—who acted immediately to restore the dignity of the one who accused her, without attempting to obscure our knowledge that such a complaint was indeed made—has demonstrated with more than words that she is contrite, and that she possesses the redemptive quality innate in the best among us.

I can forgive Asia because her accuser has willfully released her. I can forgive Asia because she made suitable restitution permitting her accuser to begin to heal.

As a victim, an advocate, and a survivor, I stand with you always and forever,
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-Theresa Giovanna 
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Give Me Wisdom

4/13/2018

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"For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence:
​but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it."
​-Ecclesiastes 7:12 KJV
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Countdown mode at Bella Caveat

We don't joke about our fitness level:
​we plan and execute 

#happyfriday

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American Democracy

4/6/2018

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I was hungry 
they didn't feed me

I was naked 
no one clothed me

I needed medicine 
they turned me away 

Auschwitz is not far off under the ideology that is Donald Trump & family
and if you're an ethical person of color living in the U.S., everyday in the U.S. is a personal Holocaust
and where we are headed is far worse than any place that we've been before
this is not to say that we shouldn't still fight, but
make no mistake: this is Sodom and Gomorrah

And now we will deny those who want to enter this s-hole?

reality hurts and truth bites
 

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Maybe the Beauty Hurts Her Eyes

4/5/2018

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This is how I flip the bird:
Shout out to the American women so invested in trying to keep other women down. 
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#tbt

Mic Drop

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Reflections on becoming focused and aligned

4/2/2018

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Sometimes you have to revisit the past to move forward

I have to win a lawsuit. So, I haven't been able to fully commit my time to growing my business in the way that I have normally dedicated myself to tasks. I came across this video from 2015, while preparing to make a statement on the vision and goals that I have set for 2018. In looking back, I'm not where I used to be but not where I should be. 

I'll leave you with this: stay beautiful in the face of it all.
I know that's a big ask from me to you. It's the same pep talk I give myself daily. 
Campus assault, like many other issues, is preventable. 
It's on us to challenge unjust practices. No one will do it for us. I've looked. 

Only a power and money hungry SOB would pretend such problem are more complex than they truly are. (The bad news is that we're surrounded by too many power and money hungry SOBs.)
And now I have to go slay dragons and win a lawsuit. (Clearly the 'good' advocates of equality and justice currently in power don't care too much, because we're still having this discussion today.)

The solution? A change in power. 
#enoughsaid

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The Interrogatories

3/30/2018

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The Saga Continues...

Bailey v. New York Law School et al. 

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Ugly Truth

3/28/2018

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"You're in the system." Said the woman at the crises center. "You've been assaulted before." 

The U.S. legal system is an ugly game easily bested by big dollars and corporate interests. Sorry to burst your bubble. 

You need only look at my complexion, skin, and hair to see that I've been fighting in court for two years. Only most can't see that: they expect that because I am a woman of color I would naturally show signs of degradation, wear and tear. But it isn't natural for me. 

The good news: it's temporary 

We fight so that other women will not have to tell this same story. And we will overcome. 
And oh how I wish Bella Caveat was operational right now.
Bella Caveat handles crises like 1, 2, #solved - and that's why we're taking the extra time to ensure we introduce and maintain a quality product. 
#Bella
created by women

Love, Theresa 

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Rape Bait and Negro Girls: A Documentary

3/26/2018

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In the making...

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​Because we are more than rape bait and negro girls

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We will not be silenced 

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Farewell Facebook

3/22/2018

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Finally. I have long awaited this day. 

Not long from now, in a week or so, I will delete my personal Facebook account. And I have long awaited this day. At least from the time that I mentioned that I had been assaulted on New York Law School's campus by Stephen Nesbit in 2014, and Howard Meyers--lawyer, professor, and esteemed member of New York Law School--demanded that I remove all social media references to the assault, on behalf of New York Law School's Harassment and Discrimination Review Board, then comprised of Howard Meyers, Erika Wood, and Jeffery Becherer, all employees of New York Law School. 
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Modern Martyr

3/15/2018

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I didn't choose the martyr life

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So, we borrowed from quotes most beautiful from across the globe....

(because women's rights, civil rights, human rights, state and federal law, the U.S. Constitution - for us, it's self explanatory)


"Their victims never had any appeals, nor did their tormentors have any mercy. Consequently these perpetrators don't deserve either." (re: justice for Holocaust victims)

"Democracy...does not mean that minorities can be exploited for the majority's satisfaction." (re: justice for persecuted Rohingya)

"We receive authorities' inaction as tacit consent for hatred directed towards the Jewish community and call upon Polish leadership to punish those whose actions threaten our well-being. As representatives of Polish Jewish organizations, we call on public institutions, police, media outlets, schools, and members of the Polish public to combat anti-Semitism." (re: justice for Jews in Poland)

"Your behavior was cunning, persistent, manipulative and cruel." (from a judicial sentence handed down in Birmingham, the United Kingdom)

"We will continue to demand the resignations of every individual who either participated in the abuse of women or stood by and was complicit by failing to conduct proper due diligence, as legally required...we expect that no new board members will be appointed until every implicated board  member has resigned." (re: beauty pageant contestants addressing their overseeing organization)

"The criminal actions he is accused of conducting on the bodies of these women are his responsibility, and if there is any justice left in the system he will pay for them - regardless of how many good movies, made by many good people, Harvey was lucky to enough to have acquired or financed." (re: American actress on Harvey Weinstein)

Why do these U.S. individuals believe that they are exempt?

New York Law School,
Anthony Crowell,
Deborah Archer,
Oral Hope,
Victoria Eastus,
David Schoenbrod,
Erika Wood,
Howard Meyers,
Jeffery Becherer,
Ella Mae Estrada,
Barbara Graves-Poller, and
Stephen Nesbit  

We either tolerate or disavow and punish violations 
Lawyers, law schools, and whites are not exempt from complying with U.S. law. Not one of these individuals should be given a free-pass. 

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